tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post1589739386105706751..comments2023-10-20T07:27:30.939-04:00Comments on clueless but hopeful mama: Aim highclueless but hopeful mamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11011524864788495788noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-30604091086124012952011-02-09T17:31:12.998-05:002011-02-09T17:31:12.998-05:00I am so moved by your recent posts... I find mysel...I am so moved by your recent posts... I find myself thinking about them for days after reading. I often become torn up about my part time work which should be "ideal" but can sometimes feel like the worst rather than best of both worlds, depending on the day. Really brave posts about depression, motherhood -- thank you for them.Jessica Berger Grosshttp://blogs.yogajournal.com/enlightenedmotherhood/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-3206921705531919442011-02-09T11:00:48.985-05:002011-02-09T11:00:48.985-05:00oh, and my GOD woman... you are a WRITER!oh, and my GOD woman... you are a WRITER!mindful mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03211011132017542660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-32889086813734451342011-02-09T10:37:20.289-05:002011-02-09T10:37:20.289-05:00I'm probably embarrassing myself to admit to h...I'm probably embarrassing myself to admit to having watched way too much Little House on the Prairie as a kid ( I learned sooo much from that show)but I'll always remember what Laura's Mom said to her as she was crying the night before getting married and becoming a mother, giving up her job as a teacher in the process.... "Oh Laura. You'll be a teacher, don't you worry. A mother is a teacher, a nurse, a doctor, a cook [I'd substitute four star chef] A mother is all things. When I think about the fact that I haven't worked as a social worker for almost five years since becoming a mom, I realize that all those people I might be helping if I was working, are still benefiting by my raising kind, caring, children who will become good citizens for a better world. (ok, gag, I know!!) Not the most interesting dinner conversation, but you can really put a spin on it that will get the other people at the table thinking about how maybe what THEY do is really not that important... are THEY shaping the adults of the future???mindful mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03211011132017542660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-10414761875706440072011-02-06T22:17:08.787-05:002011-02-06T22:17:08.787-05:00I struggle with this daily. I want to be home wit...I struggle with this daily. I want to be home with the kids because I think its important. I worry that being home with the kids is robbing me of a fulfilling career and the chance to feel good at something other than raising kids/running a household. I find that at dinner parties conversation dies after I reply to the "what do you do" question with "I'm a SAHM." I try to be taken seriously but do I undermine myself by not feeling like I'm doing anything? <br /><br />Great post. Well said.Birdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10283580073759431574noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-14175632068387408002011-02-06T20:29:41.109-05:002011-02-06T20:29:41.109-05:00I hear you. I have a scientist hubby too. This w...I hear you. I have a scientist hubby too. This was the WORST kind of night when I was home full-time. Worst. <br /><br />I can't wait to see what you do wind up doing next. It's sure to be amazing!MoreSimplyHumanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01207919310024230069noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-34157721829411277182011-02-06T18:42:14.391-05:002011-02-06T18:42:14.391-05:00Wow. Can so relate to this. Also, you are a writer...Wow. Can so relate to this. Also, you are a writer too...when that person asked ou about dance, I was waiting for your reply and when the other person jumped in I was saying to myself, "stop talking. She is a dancer. Let her tell this one." You totally captured what the dinner was like for you. And like the other commenters, I would love to learn something more about dance from you if you ever feel like blogging about it.Amyhttp://www.girlintheroom.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-39407305707026476812011-02-05T12:27:36.999-05:002011-02-05T12:27:36.999-05:00I too have many plans for that point when our youn...I too have many plans for that point when our youngest child (probably yet unborn!) goes off to school and I am no longer needed all day long. Whenever I discuss this with Addy (because yes, it's a subject that's come up at our table, too) she reacts with tears, saying, "But we NEED you!" And I try to explain that eventually she won't feel that way, and that by the time I go to work or school again, she will be ten or more. But it's still a touchy subject. I think you handled it very well!Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07141742419364168878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-90053566285739913952011-02-05T00:56:03.381-05:002011-02-05T00:56:03.381-05:00All the comments I have tried to write are way to ...All the comments I have tried to write are way to long for this rich, amazing, insightful post! Here is my attempt at a summary:<br /><br />GO CG!!!! Seriously, dude. <br /><br />GO CBHM!! The way you wrestle with these thoughts and feelings and then SHARE about them so articulately is amazing.KGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16768948862156279601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-84150777884668958732011-02-04T09:07:12.239-05:002011-02-04T09:07:12.239-05:00As moms we don't usually get progress reports ...As moms we don't usually get progress reports but I think when a child says they want to be like you, that's equivalent to an outstanding job performance review! Congrats!<br /><br />And hey, why not invite a bunch of moms over for a dinner party and we can talk about our jobs while CG gets the chance to feel what's it's like to be out of the loop? Great idea, right? What time should I come over?D.B.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-55779607308275625822011-02-03T23:22:14.051-05:002011-02-03T23:22:14.051-05:00As a former dancer, I too, would enjoy a discussio...As a former dancer, I too, would enjoy a discussion of dance. =)<br /><br />But dancing aside, I work part-time and it is an ideal (for me), but strange world in some respects. My kids would much prefer me home with them full-time, my paying job treats my days with the kids like "vacation" days ("Why can't you just come in on Tuesday?"), and we have some marital disagreements over equal division of housework because hey, I'm home with the kids 2 days a week so why don't I have time to do more housework? (Ha ha ha!). I would love to think that it is possible to be a mother without the constant struggle of your wants vs. the kids' needs vs. money vs. guilt, but that just doesn't seem to be the case.<br /><br />Something that I heard that has helped me when I have felt "less than" because I have sacrificed my career for the kids is that "You are the expert on your kids". Not just the mom, but the EXPERT. My Type-A self enjoys being the expert about something - even if it is how to get a four year old dressed in the morning without tears.Ginahttp://www.mendolo.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-15693821175461980532011-02-03T14:52:30.680-05:002011-02-03T14:52:30.680-05:00And GOOD JOB CG. You deserve gold bullion for that...And GOOD JOB CG. You deserve gold bullion for that rapid response! ;)miyokonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-73992823532123752772011-02-03T14:51:19.490-05:002011-02-03T14:51:19.490-05:00heh. when P grows up she just wants to "stay ...heh. when P grows up she just wants to "stay home and live with mommy and daddy, forever".miyokonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-68643381076013147282011-02-03T10:58:52.415-05:002011-02-03T10:58:52.415-05:00i hope my previous comment makes any coherent sens...i hope my previous comment makes any coherent sense - I am at work, sick and was up half the night with a sick lil one also :( oye....Barbnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-38230016103242697012011-02-03T10:57:37.301-05:002011-02-03T10:57:37.301-05:00wow...just wow...that is all that comes to mind no...wow...just wow...that is all that comes to mind now. being an out of the house working mother is SO hard b/c I am thinking about my lil one ALL. THE. TIME. and thinking about am I doing the wrong thing by not being home with him....(I could go on for pages about this one....). BTW - it is not right when ppl say a working mom versus a non-working mom - because if you are a SAHM you are absolutely working - it is SUCH a hard job - you can't even go to the bathroom by yourself! You are doing the right thing for you and your family right now and you are amazing!!Barbnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-41712581525761466212011-02-03T10:08:36.891-05:002011-02-03T10:08:36.891-05:00Man, this resonated with me SO HARD. And CG's ...Man, this resonated with me SO HARD. And CG's quick response brought tears to my eyes!Swistlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13126937282657655091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-46492299725990038972011-02-03T10:02:34.331-05:002011-02-03T10:02:34.331-05:00I have so many questions about dance. I wish we co...I have so many questions about dance. I wish we could have some kind of 21st century "salon" like Virginia Woolf and the Bloomsbury group, only online where we get to talk about art, culture, and life. Hey, isn't that exactly what blogging does?<br /><br />I get frustrated with the music industry and lawyer talk of DG and his "people." Your people are definitely here and I for one would love a post on modern dance. :)<br /><br />Z and E have a super smart mommy and her insights and intelligence are always appreciated here and I know by the girls too.Grateful Twin Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01778859469823663902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-90221744086671467002011-02-02T23:51:39.029-05:002011-02-02T23:51:39.029-05:00Oh again I can relate so well. I tell my husband f...Oh again I can relate so well. I tell my husband frequently that I feel invisible. I struggle with finding my place and my worth all the time. <br /><br />I'm reading a really insightful book right now called Maternal Desire by Daphne de Marneffe. It addresses, through the cultural lens of the feminist movement, these very issues. Her main thought (and I'm only a few chapters in) is that for many mothers the desire to actually be with her children and interact daily is as meaningful (or more) than working outside the home. I've been dying to discuss it with other mamas...But no one else I know has read it yet.Cortneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09266856805009205762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-51500341490937292592011-02-02T23:49:43.119-05:002011-02-02T23:49:43.119-05:00Yes. Yesyesyesyes. I'm so conflicted about it...Yes. Yesyesyesyes. I'm so conflicted about it too, and I wonder if it's because I'm raising 3 girls? I mean, would I be AS conflicted if I was raising 3 boys? Also, your sentence about being a suburban SAHM on prozac etc? You're so right that it's not permanent, and it's also just a very small slice of a very big, full life. You (none of us) can be summed up in a sentence like that.Marie Greenhttp://lifeintinytown.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-42216483991077890282011-02-02T22:12:47.382-05:002011-02-02T22:12:47.382-05:00A.MEN.
I hate being overlooked in conversation w...A.MEN. <br /><br />I hate being overlooked in conversation with people who are, seemingly, in a different world than me. It's frustrating and makes me feel small.Devanhttp://www.all-d.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.com