tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post1693020431520729477..comments2023-10-20T07:27:30.939-04:00Comments on clueless but hopeful mama: Tryingclueless but hopeful mamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11011524864788495788noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-75614346018493369652012-05-21T09:41:15.076-04:002012-05-21T09:41:15.076-04:00oh, ps, I have very similar dreams... I feel ya.oh, ps, I have very similar dreams... I feel ya.MoreSimplyHumanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01207919310024230069noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-77189678133027400502012-05-21T09:39:45.979-04:002012-05-21T09:39:45.979-04:00As soon as both of my kids were in school, I BLEW ...As soon as both of my kids were in school, I BLEW out of my house. I raced out! WHOOSH!!! <br /><br />Then I totally neglected home organization for at least 2 years...and thank f'n god...because too much home-care drove me mad. <br /><br />One of my clinical supervisors is a really famous psychoanalyst. She frequently says: "You put a woman alone in a house with small children and expect her NOT to get depressed??? Are you kidding? Child-rearing is not meant to happen that way."<br /><br />Yep.MoreSimplyHumanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01207919310024230069noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-3466074841769173662012-05-09T19:48:24.246-04:002012-05-09T19:48:24.246-04:00Ok, now I'm truly floored by the ongoing samen...Ok, now I'm truly floored by the ongoing sameness of our lives. It's just crazy... every time I sit down to read one of your posts it's as if I wrote it (except more eloquently written.<br /><br />Ditto to it ALL, including a fresh new week-old mindfulness meditation practice. I'm reading Jon Kabat-Zinn's Full Catastrophe Living at the moment and "TRYING" for non-striving, "TRYING" to keep my commitment to myself.<br /><br />I'm constantly struggling with the thought of doing something more "useful" in my life, to serve others, to have my need to do something other than mother met, ie: go back to work. Ugh. And I have a career to go back to. But the inertia I have to overcome to make it happen is scary and every time I start to think about it, I get scared and run away. I, too, am waiting for the "right" time. <br /><br />Again, thanks for helping me feel less alone and isolated in this crazy mama world. <br /><br />And happy early Mother's Day CBHM! You're such a great mama!Cortneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09266856805009205762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-48109551044127827852012-05-08T20:08:44.398-04:002012-05-08T20:08:44.398-04:00I loved everything that you said, but I have to ad...I loved everything that you said, but I have to admit my favorite part was finding out that you are writing fiction. You have such a true voice! I am sure that when you find the story to go with it, the results will be amazing. Please don't be impatient with yourself.Joannanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-67572536748604676922012-05-08T17:21:25.352-04:002012-05-08T17:21:25.352-04:00This is a tough spot to be in. I"m there righ...This is a tough spot to be in. I"m there right now, in my underemployedness. I theoretically should go get a "real" job, but I can't bear the idea of working for The Man again. But I can't do nothing, if only for practical reasons. It's hard to be in the middle without knowing what kind of end you want. Like one of those Choose Your Own Adventure books. I agree with Pamela, I hope you will write!Amyhttp://www.mychickencheese.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-33356509760598137852012-05-07T20:53:27.214-04:002012-05-07T20:53:27.214-04:00Sarah- Thank you for your votes! I (think I) agree...Sarah- Thank you for your votes! I (think I) agree with both of them!<br /><br />Stephanie- IT IS A PART TIME JOB, RIGHT? I mean, I really and truly love to exercise but there's only so much I can comfortably squeeze into my life before it starts to become a Big Deal. And yes, my metabolism is totally and completely "crapping out" of me!<br /><br />Shannon- Thanks. Just, THANKS.<br /><br />Hillary- And thanks to you, too.<br /><br />Pamela- OH DEAR. I'm not sure I really want to discover where my mind goes! (And that phone you hear ringing? That's my therapist calling.....)clueless but hopeful mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11011524864788495788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-81042480868916232012-05-07T19:46:30.941-04:002012-05-07T19:46:30.941-04:00My yoga teacher said that meditation is less about...My yoga teacher said that meditation is less about quieting the mind and more about discovering where it goes ... <br />I too am for the bigger shorts. But more, I am for you submitting THIS piece out someplace. It's wonderful. I feel like you are inside my head (and my own bathroom where potty training is NOT happening despite the addition of M&Ms to the process). I love the play between what you think you should want versus what is as well as the confusion about what is. Because we all have that confusion. This is wonderful! I hope your work outside the home is to write:)Pamela Hunt Cloydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15785363232789520183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-27266444038260713722012-05-07T17:10:29.773-04:002012-05-07T17:10:29.773-04:00I always feel a little better about my own situati...I always feel a little better about my own situation when you write about your search for meaning and purpose. Some of it is commiseration. But it's also because I really respect your writing and mothering and accomplishments. I admire you and yet you struggle with these same questions, which makes me feel like it's OK that I do, too. <br /><br />Thank you!Hillaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07383163628351295433noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-58187658232089828632012-05-07T16:05:13.528-04:002012-05-07T16:05:13.528-04:00Love your candor. As for the pants, I say, get you...Love your candor. As for the pants, I say, get yourself one really nice fitting comfortable "bigger" pair that make you feel good and then have a goal of getting healthy, no matter what size that equates to. Have you checked out the belly dancing ladies all over this world? Their "belly" is a thing of beauty... only we think of it as gross. Why is THAT? This reminds me of your post "Operation Muffin Top" a few years ago. I almost peed my pants laughing when I read that one. <br /><br />How about signing yourself up to volunteer one day a month or one day a week at a place you think does good things for the world? You can even volunteer to help new moms in the hospital who have had a rough time. That always ignites new motivation in me (though I haven't done a thing in 6 years since my son was born). And as always, your little blog here is such a great contribution to all of us, don't ever forget that!Shannonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-3746140921084632072012-05-07T14:35:49.625-04:002012-05-07T14:35:49.625-04:00I read your post quickly this morning and then rus...I read your post quickly this morning and then rushed off to yoga, which I've committed to doing daily just for this month. And while I was there (doing the yoga) I was thinking that, you know, working out this much really IS like having a part-time job! It's at least 15 hours a week between the getting there, the doing it, and the showering after (required, and I have very low standards for going about the town). Anyway, I think our metabolisms are just crapping out on us, and I'm vacillating, like you, between "Oh, hell no, body" and making peace with a slightly larger size of pants.Stephaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14829879364698112444noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-20197775520017933032012-05-07T10:18:15.665-04:002012-05-07T10:18:15.665-04:00I've been trying to teach myself to meditate f...I've been trying to teach myself to meditate forever but it is ridiculously hard to quiet my mind! Ugh!d e v a nhttp://www.all-d.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-46091676153442238112012-05-07T09:28:40.530-04:002012-05-07T09:28:40.530-04:00I have two votes: one, that you buy a size bigger ...I have two votes: one, that you buy a size bigger shorts. If you're already exercising and eating in ways that are about as high a strictness level as you're able/willing to comfortably maintain, then there's no point in killing yourself for a few months, losing ALL the weight you want to, and then eventually, inevitably backsliding and regaining it. I think maybe you're right that your body just wants to be a little bigger now, and unless you're willing to deprive it of chocolate, wine and cheese forever, you should let it!<br />My second vote is that this fall you should try to find something out of the house to do with your free time. It's so easy and tempting, once you've been a stay at home parent, to get utterly wrapped up in the details of the home. And not that they don't matter- I obviously believe they do, or I wouldn't be where I am. But I think it's healthy, once the little ones don't need every ounce of our energy, to find moments to remind ourselves of what we have to give beyond the circle of our nuclear family. Plus (if it were me, anyways) I'd end up wasting half that time at home I was planning to use organizing and painting and instead read and eat and watch Netflix in peace. But if I had a commitment out of the house, I'd HAVE to go! But that's just me.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07141742419364168878noreply@blogger.com