tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post7802650753831014908..comments2023-10-20T07:27:30.939-04:00Comments on clueless but hopeful mama: Five Stages of Griefclueless but hopeful mamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11011524864788495788noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-52215048234318151652013-03-17T17:38:18.440-04:002013-03-17T17:38:18.440-04:00All of us have either been down this road or else ...All of us have either been down this road or else are headed down it. I'm grateful to you for writing about it.Swistlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13126937282657655091noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-52090054079685604592013-03-11T17:28:46.679-04:002013-03-11T17:28:46.679-04:00oh, oh, oh. i am so sorry. it is not fair, none o...oh, oh, oh. i am so sorry. it is not fair, none of it, and i know knowing that doesn't help either. internet hugs for you and yours, big, big, internet hugs. Alicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15287792370490363047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-86628908893614678792013-03-09T22:09:39.742-05:002013-03-09T22:09:39.742-05:00oh hugs. yes i have days when i am driving around,...oh hugs. yes i have days when i am driving around, or clothing shopping or doing things that my mom taught me to do, or loved doing with me and i get full of rage. i feel ROBBED! I feel like someone STOLE my mom from me, from everyone. <br /><br />sometimes i just feel sad. i'll be doing one thing one moment and crying completely out of the blue the next. (just ask my yoga teacher)<br /><br />the grief will morph. it will constantly change. it will sneak up on you and surprise you. but also it will make you powerful.<br /><br />after hospice i didn't sleep well for weeks and weeks and weeks. i had spent so many nights listening for my mother breathing that i couldn't handle the silence.<br /><br />it feels like the pain won't get better. it feels like while you don't want the pain anymore, you're strangely scared to let it fade because you don't want that person to fade as well. <br /><br />the pain does fade. the memories help you through the day. there are days where my mom is so present i feel like i could talk to her and get an answer. instead of letting those days sadden me, i am trying to now see them as a gift. <br /><br />i had such a great time seeing you today. seeing your mom and your brother, and your hubby and your kiddos. seeing the love. seeing exactly where you got all that you are. truly phenomenal. you are a lucky lady to have had so SO so much love, creativity, and life-crafting in your life. your parents serve as an example of doing what you love. gotta grab on to that and power through.miyokonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-23672976143029018402013-03-06T01:08:09.219-05:002013-03-06T01:08:09.219-05:00I am so, so sorry for your loss. I am so, so sorry for your loss. Gingerhttp://rambleramble.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-3570583936801154622013-03-05T18:50:26.615-05:002013-03-05T18:50:26.615-05:00Oh J, I'm so sorry. None of this is fair.Oh J, I'm so sorry. None of this is fair.Mama Bubhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04521543145593543128noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-63499654396641725762013-03-05T02:40:31.830-05:002013-03-05T02:40:31.830-05:00This is so beautiful and heartbreaking. You and yo...This is so beautiful and heartbreaking. You and your family are still in my thoughts and prayers. (hugs)Doing My Besthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01899668428457343549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-3508053186634681932013-03-04T22:28:12.742-05:002013-03-04T22:28:12.742-05:00I'm just a stranger crying for you. But I am s...I'm just a stranger crying for you. But I am so sorry. Misha https://www.blogger.com/profile/01195857544897293479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-91769473106225378512013-03-04T21:10:30.198-05:002013-03-04T21:10:30.198-05:00Oh honey, huge hugs. Oh honey, huge hugs. d e v a nhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02514260896810474173noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-33088271833481418672013-03-04T14:19:02.383-05:002013-03-04T14:19:02.383-05:00Thinking of you. Thinking of you. khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10623440001907352150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-39715208385404005642013-03-04T12:46:07.360-05:002013-03-04T12:46:07.360-05:00I've been thinking of you every day. Checking ...I've been thinking of you every day. Checking your blog every day... knowing that with your silence you were suffering excruciating pain, knowing that when your words finally came, they would be filled with an ache so deep, I almost couldn't stand to read them. I knew there would be no words to offer you that could possibly make anything any better. Nothing can. So, I offer you only the concern and love of a stranger-sister from afar, holding you and your family and your pain in my heart, for whatever it is worth. May the empty place in your heart stand as the living proof of what your Dad's life meant and what the loss of him leaves behind. Shannonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-18819662395044711602013-03-04T11:55:32.507-05:002013-03-04T11:55:32.507-05:00This is so hard. I'm so deeply sorry for what ...This is so hard. I'm so deeply sorry for what you are suffering. All my love to you. And my advice is to keep writing, if you can. You know I understand, as much as anyone is able.Amyhttp://www.mychickencheese.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-22863402183418657612013-03-04T11:40:37.127-05:002013-03-04T11:40:37.127-05:00Lots and lots of hugs and healing thoughts to you....Lots and lots of hugs and healing thoughts to you. I wish I could do more.Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00208693126891771898noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-21402963718070283272013-03-04T08:15:11.022-05:002013-03-04T08:15:11.022-05:00Even though it's been almost seven years since...Even though it's been almost seven years since I held my mother in my arms as she died, this post brought it all back as if it happened yesterday. <br /><br />I know it probably won't help right now, but please know that it does get better. You will always miss your dad. There will always be weird things that give you a visceral memory of him that hit you like a punch to the gut. (I once sat on the floor in the salad dressing aisle of the grocery store and bawled.) But with time, the hole in your heart won't be so raw and open. It will always be there, but it won't always hurt so much.<br /><br />I'm sending you all my love.Ericahttp://www.andnoplacetogo.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-61375716629932910222013-03-03T23:10:04.453-05:002013-03-03T23:10:04.453-05:00Big hugs.Big hugs.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03347652016627835328noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-82209104151949272322013-03-03T22:28:28.227-05:002013-03-03T22:28:28.227-05:00So sorry. Thinking of you.So sorry. Thinking of you.twisterfishnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-63789123823823990422013-03-03T20:12:13.432-05:002013-03-03T20:12:13.432-05:00Once again, I am so sorry! It sucks doesn't i...Once again, I am so sorry! It sucks doesn't it? I went through and am still going through so many of those stages. The feeling that "it's not fair" may never go away unfortunately. It really isn't fair and it's Ok to feel it.<br /><br />Hugs to you!momof3https://www.blogger.com/profile/10285322298864755126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-4433814486370314322013-03-03T20:07:23.079-05:002013-03-03T20:07:23.079-05:00I am so sorry!! I can't even imagine what this...I am so sorry!! I can't even imagine what this must be like although your amazing prose gives me insight. You and Z are right. It's not fair. Lots of love to you and your family.Pamela Hunt Cloydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15785363232789520183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-9694044725009959312013-03-03T18:34:21.930-05:002013-03-03T18:34:21.930-05:00I knew this post was coming but I'm still so s...I knew this post was coming but I'm still so sad to read it. I'm so sad for you and yours.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07141742419364168878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-33686168444757420432013-03-03T16:55:31.996-05:002013-03-03T16:55:31.996-05:00Nope. Not fair. And I am sorry you've lost you...Nope. Not fair. And I am sorry you've lost your dear dad. charming gardenerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01763292107060159333noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-16404828987565532662013-03-03T15:30:16.444-05:002013-03-03T15:30:16.444-05:00Hugs and comfort to you. I'm so sorry you los...Hugs and comfort to you. I'm so sorry you lost your dad.Cortneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09266856805009205762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-45833486205600712422013-03-03T15:01:31.001-05:002013-03-03T15:01:31.001-05:00This is beautifully written. I'm so, so sorry ...This is beautifully written. I'm so, so sorry for your loss, J. Still thinking of you.Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16261907052119379241noreply@blogger.com