tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post8896652940492330881..comments2023-10-20T07:27:30.939-04:00Comments on clueless but hopeful mama: I am not "depressed".clueless but hopeful mamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11011524864788495788noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-57707323211196544292011-01-30T13:58:33.249-05:002011-01-30T13:58:33.249-05:00you're taking CARE of YOURSELF. Good for you!!...you're taking CARE of YOURSELF. Good for you!!! :D :D<br />for some really destructive, strange bizarro human reason that acknowledgement and decision to heal can be the hardest part of getting better. being able to step aside and decide to finally absorb the help from yourself and others. It's the biggest part of the rock to climb. but then each day gets easier.<br /><br />I'm happy for you.<br />ANd yes, there are so many reasons that motherhood is difficult. We are all drained but for a good reason--- the unmeasurable amount of wonderful non-stop LOVE that is constantly flowing out of us.<br /><br />:)miyokonoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-72414159633789247252011-01-22T00:03:56.318-05:002011-01-22T00:03:56.318-05:00I've struggled with depression for decades.......I've struggled with depression for decades.... on and off, up and down. It was just this past year that I started taking something (a death in the family set me off). For me it came down to drinking or drugs. Because of my family the drugs were the best choice! I'm now closer to "normal" and that's best for everyone.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-48918826040846777992011-01-17T02:03:14.283-05:002011-01-17T02:03:14.283-05:00I love drugs. *hugs*I love drugs. *hugs*Samhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06066499436533594138noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-9273003627071714662011-01-15T15:44:59.773-05:002011-01-15T15:44:59.773-05:00Been on them on and off for 13 years. They help ri...Been on them on and off for 13 years. They help right the ship. Taking them makes you strong. Deciding to take them is the strongest decision you can make.<br /><br />This, from the woman who sat in the office of yet another new therapist yesterday and described all of these symptoms you outlined here. I'm going on them, too.<br /><br />Be good to you.mrschickenhttp://www.mychickencheese.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-56412134853395827102011-01-13T23:10:47.224-05:002011-01-13T23:10:47.224-05:00Thanks CBHM. I'm glad we all can give a little...Thanks CBHM. I'm glad we all can give a little bit of encouragement and support to you after all the help your blog has provided me (and all of us out here) these past two years. Your words inspire me, your honesty humbles me, and your talent and courage to put your thoughts/feelings/worries on the "page" so eloquently have been my antidepressant many a time when these four walls seem all too isolating. Even with four other moms only steps away, depression keeps the door shut. You're right grammalouie... the internet is an incredibly powerful network of support, thanks to dedicated, thoughtful and generous people so willing to share. Thanks. I suppose I should make myself a username one of these days...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-41863424918076442622011-01-13T20:34:57.563-05:002011-01-13T20:34:57.563-05:00I read your blog from time to time and just wanted...I read your blog from time to time and just wanted to say, I'm a normal (classify normal ha) wife, speech language pathologist, and stepmom, who openly "loves" my lexapro (for anxiety). Three of my good friends are now on it because of my open endorsement. Honestly, I shouldn't have to pay for it (especially not 85$ a month)... They should sponsor me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-23780065793080041702011-01-13T20:17:06.889-05:002011-01-13T20:17:06.889-05:00This is a wonderful post. Thank you. I've ta...This is a wonderful post. Thank you. I've talked a bunch of times in my blog about how going on Zoloft made a huge sea change for me and literally swept me up over the waves that were drowning me so that I could swim ashore. I am no longer on it but looking back, wished I had started taking it sooner. <br /><br />I had no idea from reading your blog that you were dealing with depression. Please know that you have support out here in bloggyland!Amyhttp://www.girlintheroom.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-65140181513134718272011-01-13T14:19:23.663-05:002011-01-13T14:19:23.663-05:00Speaking as a member of another generation, I know...Speaking as a member of another generation, I know what we are talking about here has been experienced by women worldwide - forever, probably. Sisters, you are not alone, and the internet is one way to let you know that and one way to communicate support for each other. The world wide web is unique in human experience, and I think it's worth noting and taking advantage of. Let's support each other and move forward.grammalouienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-315420932626338022011-01-13T13:57:00.239-05:002011-01-13T13:57:00.239-05:00Thank you all for your support on this post. Your...Thank you all for your support on this post. Your comments and emails mean the world to me.<br /><br />And to Anonymous: I don't know what the deal is with so many of us mothers feeling depressed. I'm not sure it's just our generation. I imagine women have struggled for centuries to handle the incredible challenges of motherhood. Maybe we are uniquely stressed now, or maybe we are finally realizing that we don't have to just accept feeling crappy about ourselves and our lives. <br /><br />In any event, thanks for commenting and letting me know you get it. It helps me. It really does.clueless but hopeful mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11011524864788495788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-71306244143846170592011-01-11T17:41:05.767-05:002011-01-11T17:41:05.767-05:00I know I have commented before about how much I ca...I know I have commented before about how much I can relate to you, someone I've never met in "real life". <br /><br />I'm one of those "I do everything naturally, stay away from medication, work through with therapy and meditation, etc" kinds of people. <br /><br />Sometimes it's not enough. Sometimes you need more help. When I did, I took (and still take) an SSRI. <br /><br />You have a LOT on your plate. Hugs to you. And thanks so much for your honesty.Cortneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09266856805009205762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-39690835055789264522011-01-10T22:11:50.189-05:002011-01-10T22:11:50.189-05:00Just sending love from one (happily, after much of...Just sending love from one (happily, after much of the same self-argument) medicated lady to another. xoxoxoxoxoxo p.s. try to be a little easier on yourself, pleeeeaaaaaase, because you are a WONDERFUL and AMAZING person, and I admire you, as always, depression or not. smooch!Craftstress Kirahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07953590154026500112noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-73515502215947793482011-01-10T17:47:15.679-05:002011-01-10T17:47:15.679-05:00Big hugs from CA! We miss you and love you! I have...Big hugs from CA! We miss you and love you! I have moved somewhere new and struggled to fit in, I've lost someone close to me, I've struggled being a "good mother" but never all at once (you have A LOT going on). And I have taken an SSRI to feel better. And now I don't. I don't need to. The best thing about them is that they help you change your patterns of thought. You get to develop new healthier habits. But with everything remember you are fabulous and we love you! I so wish we could sit and chat over coffee and have the girls play so I could tell you that in person. Big hugs!Kathi McCracken Dentehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16067812256080732391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-8712161991615846682011-01-10T16:48:42.823-05:002011-01-10T16:48:42.823-05:00Kudos, cbhm. If the Internets are for anything, i...Kudos, cbhm. If the Internets are for anything, it's this: to cheer you on and tell you you're doing the right thing, even when you yourself worry about it. I think you're brave.Whimsyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05543385560164099748noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-6179866801000793642011-01-10T16:36:20.866-05:002011-01-10T16:36:20.866-05:00You can't see me, but I'm applauding you!You can't see me, but I'm applauding you!Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11785640836122721190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-61239418844873718512011-01-10T14:46:35.379-05:002011-01-10T14:46:35.379-05:00I've been reading your blog for two years and ...I've been reading your blog for two years and every time, I relate so strongly to where you're at, it's such a comfort to know you're out there and that I'm not the only one. I've never had the courage to comment until now. I've seen your depression in your writing... I've wanted many times to write back, to let know how much I GET IT. You are NOT alone. There are five moms on my block including me, all with kids between 1-5 yrs old. Four of of us are depressed. Three of those drink every day to get by. Surely, there must be some BIGGER REASON we are all struggling so desperately??? What the $%^#! is going on out here in motherhood???Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-8887176442344062412011-01-10T13:58:46.635-05:002011-01-10T13:58:46.635-05:00Better living through chemistry.
They raise the b...Better living through chemistry. <br />They raise the bottom up a bit. And so so so OK, yes? Nice honesty. And you have many many friends and fans on your team.charming gardenerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01763292107060159333noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-3601028361964827892011-01-10T11:38:16.869-05:002011-01-10T11:38:16.869-05:00I rarely comment, but read your posts all the time...I rarely comment, but read your posts all the time. I just wanted to say: Good for you! <br /><br />I hit bottom before my husband (not even myself!) got help to come to me. I didn't even realize it wasn't normal to feel that bad.<br /><br />You are amazing. Thank you for sharing, you are helping people every time you do.Lorahttp://www.fun-date-ideas.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-85966945615465086172011-01-10T09:52:35.570-05:002011-01-10T09:52:35.570-05:00Very well said, m'dear! I'm so glad that ...Very well said, m'dear! I'm so glad that you were able to recognize that you needed help and then GET IT. It took me YEARS of being miserable to follow those 2 simple steps.Marie Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03830798429713169174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1471353673045800301.post-70253097625342938762011-01-10T09:30:12.672-05:002011-01-10T09:30:12.672-05:00They can REALLY HELP. And it's so hard to get...They can REALLY HELP. And it's so hard to get over the hurdle of getting on them, especially when you're in the circumstances that require them. In short, those are little waves of admiration you are feeling from me.Swistlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13126937282657655091noreply@blogger.com